REVENGE

Either good or bad but it is a necessity...Fear of revenge being taken upon is what keeps many in check, prevents them from committing crime... still crimes do happen and mostly against those who r obvious to be incapable of taking revenge... isnt this instinct which keeps things balanced...
still it is not what most people resort to at first go... or is it? i think it is... people try to seek revenge through courts, through law... isnt that another way of getting things done... may be yes... may be not... depends totally on the motive of the person aproaching court... whatelse is law for, judicial system for if not a organised effort of society to take revenge on behalf of aggrieved and side by side delivering lesson to all to refrain from commiting crime... and in majority cases sense of justice gets replaced with feeling of revenge totally... our judicial system prevents unorderliness in seeking revenge... keeps process organised and animal instincts under control...
to deliver justice is the most important function of state... to protect the weak, to control the stronger and selfish... but what if state fails to deliver justice... then the weaks are helpless... no option but to shed tears only for the loss... but still very few has the courage to break... to break law, to break norms of society... to seek revenge... but not all do this... many still fear the consequences... fear of losing more if they seek revenge... may be they love more what is left rather than justice, truth... truth that to avenge is their duty... not only to the one they loved but to mankind... their attachment, their selfishness, their cowardice binds them... since whole of their life and life of others near to them is at stake if they go against norms...

to seek revenge is human and to forgive is divine... but at times forgiveness seems like tilting the balance to wrong side... and it itself looks like a big social crime... since it let many assume that this is the way they can get off easily... it spoils the system... it makes living difficult for rest... revenge is what helps to maintain peace...

Sorry for being so late for this post...nothing much to say... just busy at office and dealing with problems on personal front... problems... or may be life is just showing its worst for me... dont know what lies next... still i am going on ... dont know how long will it last... or may be its just the same as usual... in hostel days when one frnd told me that he lied to me once but now he is truthful to me i didnt knew whether to be happy for future or sad for being fooled for feelings... for betrayal.. yes, betrayal... no reciprocation for ur feelings... for love and care u show... and who has more love and care for u than ur parents... even they r fooled, betrayed by human beings whom they love most... i always thought its the parent who r at fault who being unable to teach values, unable to convey their likes, their love gets hurt... but is it so?.... obedience has been easy to me... mostly due to interest in everything and nothing... but i know its not the same for all... but is it that hard that few of us r ready to break the most of our parents... those two ppl who sacrificed so much for us... i know they did it for their interest but doesnt that interest always concides with our interest... still...i dont understand when i see ppl who believe themselves to be good doing such things... going against their parents wishes... love, love, love ... this is what we cry out all our lives... still we fail to understand it... or is it really different for all... may be i was brought up with wrong lessons... always asked to care for other's feelings... never to hurt them... feelings, feelings alone decide the course... what else is the truth of world if not feelings ppl have... and what for we exist if we dont reciprocate them...

Protest Against Protest

Do we have a right to protest?
And do we have a right to protest against the protest?
And may be also the right to further continue the series of protests...

May be this is confusing. Let me try to make it more clear.

An indian actress expressed her views about how the society is, how it should be. (Nothing about whether her views are right or wrong. It is about how far the right to express can go or should go.)

Her views not in tune with views of lots of people (hereafter this is 1st group) sparked protest against her as well as defamation charges. Then few more (2nd group) started protesting against the protest (aginst 1st group) saying that each has right to express so 1st group shouldnt protest against the actress. But doesnt that right to express exists for 1st group of people?They felt hurt and insulted so dont they have right to express their hurt, insult, etc? If not in views of 2nd group (thats why they started their protest) then how the actress got the right to express her views and 2nd group themselves expressed conern over protest by 1st group against actress?

We all are free to express likes and dislikes. But shouldnt there be some restrictions?If u have got the right to express opinions about others, about society, havent society got the same right about u? To express its opinions about u?

Nobody likes to have restrictions on behaviour or thinking. But is it not that often we ourselves speak of restrictions on others, on one section of society or other? But when it comes back to us we speak of individual liberty.It is easy to blame society (or a particular section) or express views about it becoz it is not directed, it is just thrown at. But doesnt it hurts some? (It does... but who cares?) It this is the case then why one should complain if society or a section seeks justice since u hurt it?After all it is hurt that counts... pain and sufferings versus peace and happiness.

I expect society to be like one way or the other. And same way society also expects me to be the way it likes becoz society is people like me who expects others to behave in some particualr manner. Then why should I be complaining if society complains against my behaviour since I also complain about behaviour of society. Am I not having double standards????.....

Sorry for such post at the beginning of year.
Wishing you and all ur near and dear ones a happy and prosperous year ahead.
And dont forget to drop in ur commnets. Thanks.

TO SPEAK OR NOT

"Kabhi sochta hoon... ki mein kuch kahoon... kabhi sochta hoon... ki mein chup rahoon..."
often the above lines reflect my state of mind i.e. to speak or not, to teach or not, to scold or not and even to post or not...
during college days after numerous endless heated debates(mostly on psychological and social issues) the conclusion was never to again enter into such discussions... the reason being nobody seems to listen or change ... but still i keep going on the same path... is it because i can't keep quiet when i feel that i know the truth?... initially this was the reason ... but seeing that people dont need the truth, the reason to speak up was gone... more importantly i felt that what is truth for me, what is right for me it is not the same for others owing to differences in their upbringing, their present environment, their strengths and weaknesses... may be my perception of world, of people doesnt applies to them ... my truth, my understanding can even harm them...
but somewhere in the middle i realised that to be quiet is not the way... i have learnt so much from hearing others, reading others, ... each of my interaction with people, knowing their view point coupled with my own personal experiences helped me in arriving at whatever understanding i have today... i feel that whatever i say and now a days write also (thanks to blogworld) it is going to be a part of database of some...may be a part of their thinking also... and more importantly to arrive at truth they shud know my viewpoint also becoz i am a part of the truth...

rest of this post is for vishnupriya (being tagged by him long back... he might have forgotten himself :-))
have to do the following:
A. from your 23rd post (or closest), post the fifth sentence online.
B. post a 55 word story

A. Closest post is current one.:-)
"but still i keep going on the same path."

B. 55 word story (do tell me if it makes sense)

"Again I forgot. She wept yesterday for hours". As he entered he saw little angel in dress she was asking since last week."Daddy, i love u..." she said while being in his arms. Amazingly he looked towards his wife. Her nod and smile made him feel like in heaven.

KIDS: They work wonders!

It was the end of the school year, and a kindergarten teacher was receiving gifts from her pupils.
The florist's son handed her a gift. She shook it, held it overhead,and said, "I bet I know what it is. Flowers." "That's right!" the boy said, "But, how did you know?" "Oh, just a wild guess," she said.
The next pupil was the sweet shop owner's daughter. The teacher held her gift overhead, shook it, and said, "I bet I can guess what it is. A box of sweets." "That's right, but how did you know?" asked the girl. "Oh, just a wild guess," said the teacher.
The next gift was from the son of the liquor storeowner. Theteacher held the package overhead, but it was leaking. She touched a drop off the leakage with her finger and put it to her tongue. "Is it wine?" she asked. "No," the boy replied, with some excitement. The teacher repeated the process, tasting a larger drop of the leakage. "Is it champagne?" she asked. "No," the boy replied, with more excitement. The teacher took one more big taste before declaring, "I give up, what is it?" With great glee, the boy replied, "It's a puppy!"

Truth: Where does it leads to?

It leads to insanity... if u stick to it all the times.
It looks weird to me also thinking on these lines but this is what i have started to believe in since last couple of years.
I am not talking about the situation after understanding truth but about "speaking truth" all times as we understand it.
In childhood I could never understand why is it considered to be so great to speak truth all times. As years passed by I felt that may be it is due to weaknesses inherent in human nature that we need to lie at times. May be because we feel truth(as it appears to us) to be shameful for our existence. After few more years we realise that we can share truth with few because they r the ones who understand our perception, who care for it.
But still down few years comes the final realisation that "truth is not needed". Not all need ur truth, not all can listen to it, not all can undertand it, not all can live with it. It pains to know that people really dont need to know truth. The worst part is that at times even ur loved ones behave like that.
Now when i find people (though still in single digit count) who stick to speaking truth at all times I wonder whether they are abnormal. Watching kids, it appears as if majority human beings are hardwired to tell lies. Among the rest majority learns to tell lies observing others. Those who continue to be truthful all times are not they defying the nature? Apart from their own personal sufferings, troubles comes to their loved ones who then starts complaining.Even then if some people continue to be what they r (truthful), is it not a abnormality in them that they can't live without being truthful? They dont conform to majority behaviour, they make their and others survival difficult, they find peace only being what is not even required by any. They go against the nature's law that every living being works towards its survival and these selected few makes their survival difficult by being truthful all times.
Being truthful alienates u from the rest including ur most loved ones at times.

Happy Deepawali

Being unwell for nearly 2 weeks i was away from blog world for quite a long... still not recovered fully...will try to be regular now onwards...
leaving for home in few minutes for deepawali ...

Wishing all of you a Happy and Prosperous Deepawali!
May this deepawali brings good health and prosperity to u and all ur near and dear ones.