Thursday, September 29, 2005

GIFT

Today is my friends birthday ... about whom i talked a few posts back ... even though initially i was going to write on something else yet when thinking abt wht to give to him as gift, one old question came to my mind ... it is abt gift ...

a gift u recived from somebody and for whom it was special ... problem is ... wht if that gift is liked by someone else among ur near and dear ones ...

to give that gift to somebody else looks like not caring abt feelings of one who gave it to u ...but not giving also amounts to same hurt ... hurting other person now ... but this is not the reason for my problem ... my dilemma is due to some other reason which makes me feel that giving the gift to the one who asked means caring for feelings of both the persons ... my mother told me this when i refused to part with one of my gifts ... i was in habit of keeping all gifts in store ... and now this habit is for feelings of special occasions which again i am unable to part with ... i didnt got any reason till now to part with my feelings ...

anyways this is off track ... the reasoning my mother gave is this ...

u hold that gift as very special ... and the person who asked for this gift is also among ur near and dear ones ... so again he is also special ... now giving the special gift u received to a special person means giving special attention to that gift and in turn to the person who gave the gift ... becoz u cant give anything as gift but only something special ... so u accorded special status to the special gift by giving it to a special person ... so u have cared for feelings of both the persons and had done the right thing ... but i also doubt if this reasoning is still correct in case the person who gave the gift doesnt agrees ... is the person who gave the gift has the sole discretion to decide abt the gift or can we go on with the reasoning waiting for him to understand the truth ... wht do u think ?

sorry if reading this caused a headache or looked like wastage of time ... it may sound silly i agree but wht to do ...

30 comments:

Gangadhar said...

First of all...a very happy bithday to you..
And I keep the gift fom my dear one as so precious...and I'll tell da same thing to the next dear person who wants dat gift....

soumya said...

gangadhar: its not mine but my frnds b'day ...:-)
so u will hurt atleast one ....

Soumyadip said...

Gifts. I like receiving them more than giving. The reason is not tight purse strings, but what to gift. I know that the thought matters. But the gift should also substantiate the feelings. And as always I get stuck there. Beings an eternal escapist, I take the easiest route out.

soumya said...

soumyadip: to me the same route comes by itself ... :-)

Art said...

I would not part with any of my gifts.. they are special coz someone gave it to me...
Firstly, some other person asking ur gift itself is something i dont agree...i mean only samll kids do that.. go n ask someone their gift.. U might want a similar one, and not that...
would u like it if u gave gift to someone and that person gifted the same to someone else!!!

Tarun said...

It's good to keep Gifts but the problem realy comes when you get same gift from two or more different persons...in that case what one can do...either returned the extra or give it to someone else.

soumya said...

art: the confusion is only becoz i agree with the reasoning ... if my gift is liked and asked by someone dear to the one whom i gave the gift then i wudnt mind giving it ...
ya, i agree only small kids do that... im my case it was my brother ...

tarun: hmm, this is really a big problem ;-)

Art said...

Well..thats an exception...anything can be done for a bro or sis... break the rules :)

I want to give my bro anything he wants in this world... Ofcourse he has crazy things in mind which i cant get him :)

Barath said...

Never thought like that b4...good one!

soumya said...

art: grt! ... ur brother is really lucky to have u ... i hope ur feelings for him lasts through out life ...

barath : thanks :-)

ahaan said...

Anything for people i care.I think ur mom is right.....
"in case the person who gave the gift doesnt agrees"
i think he/she shud understand that u r giving the gift to someone special who means a lot to u and u can probably not say no to him .
Thinking about myself i dont think so it wud have bothered me unless it wud have been given to just anybody ..

soumya said...

ahaan: thanks a lot ... will say more abt it next post

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shobhna said...

hmmm that is a different way to look at it. Though I will not give away a gift given to me by a dear one easily. But sharnig with sibiling is a totally different matter.
Btw nice to see ur comments on my blog I thought that u were not going to comment any more :)

dfg said...

Hi
i read that twice.....to understand....i never thought of gifts that way..but i am still thinking about what u said............
Prakash

Sleepyface said...

hey, do u mean to say you value the gift more than the confidence and trust in the near and dear one who gave the gift to u?

i would've given the gift to the other person, and i feel ur mom is right..

and bro, you've been tagged. you've to do both. visit my blog for details. enjoy! :)

King Kong said...

Hm...good post about gift.. a bit too philosophical for my level of understanding.

Art said...

Added u to my list :)

soumya said...

shobhna: near and dear ones include siblings and other realtions as well :-)

prakash: its not that serious :-) and difficult also ;-)

vishnupriya: thanks a lot dear for ur views ... u have hit me direct :-)
thanks for tagging :-)

king kong: i thought it was simple ... ;-)

soumya said...

art: thanks :-)

AmitKen said...

i understand, my friend.

soumya said...

amitken: thanks :-)

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exasparater said...

cool post!!

Arz000n said...

Hope to hear from you soon SS

Take care

Greetz!!!

Soumyadip said...

You've been tagged.

exasparater said...

time for a new post!!!!!

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